Hopefully you get to talk to people who give you ideas worth thinking about long after the conversation ended. The ideas that last are gifts. They are remembrances. Long after that person leaves your life, those ideas will stay with you. They’re a legacy. I wonder if one of the greatest gifts we can give each other is an idea worth noodling.

I wonder…Is the quality of a person’s satisfaction of a thing tied to the amount and quality of their expectations of that thing? The implication is that there’s a sweet spot in how much expectation we give others. Just enough, but not too much. Just for fun…I tried to turn the thought into a math equation just for the fun of it. Feel free to tell me how I’m wrong or how it needs to change:Let Q = experience of satisfactionLet E = amount and quality of expectation created.Equation: Q = f(1/E) (The experience of satisfaction (Q) is the function (f) of 1 over the amount and quality of expectation created (E)).

Before, I used to be a “perception is reality” kinda person.Later, I changed into a “perception is a lie” kinda person.Now, I wonder if I’ve become more Machiavellian: “Reality is a practical and real understanding of the world that enables actual effectiveness. Perception is a notion, a conception of the world that could be clouded by bias, or a fictional story.” I’m still a work in progress.

Deadlines give managers and leaders a sense of security. They give me nothing but anxiety. The one that gives me security is the knowledge that change will disrupt my best laid plans.Instead of a hard deadline, I opt for a “real deadline.” The real deadline is a date that gives an high level idea of how long the project might last. It’s usually 1.5 times my original estimate of a project’s length. Be careful. The extra time is not license to be lazy. If I take even the slightest bit of time to be lazy, I find that I’ve already put myself behind the proverbial “eight ball.”

A heuristic for determining how to engage with your customers: When stakes are higher in the customer/buyer’s mind, the level and quantity of human interaction must also increase.If that is true, spend time analyzing your customer journey for the high stakes moments of truth.You can use this framework in and outside of work too. I instantly see a use case for team managers.

If you can cultivate trust in yourself, you can act with integrity and virtue. The mass of your spirit increases. If the mass of your spirit increases, the push and pull force exerted on you by friends will not materially change you; but may influence your direction or state of motion. If the force of friendship acts upon you, you will be able to exert the same partner force of friendship upon your friends. A friend is someone who has the interest of their friends in mind.

Why do leaders spend so much time learning how to give feedback? Wouldn’t it be better if we spent more time learning how to accept feedback?The more and more I think about leadership thought leadership, the more and more I wonder if it all means nothing. I read tons of books on leadership, people, communication, and how we influence one another. There’s no mystery. The best leaders help their teams perform their next show better; they don’t spend time adjudicating the past. What’s rarely discussed is how the best teams accept feedback.Learning to be a musician is learning how to accept feedback. Your teacher critiques your performance. You are encouraged to criticize your performance. A jury dissects your performance. Everybody is criticizing you. How do we musicians make it through music school? The answer you thought in your head is likely not wrong, but that’s not what I’m going to share. The answer is we learn to think of our performance as just that - a performance. There are worlds where self worth is not defined by someone’s work. I know. I’ve been there.

I couldn’t sleep the other night because I’m experiencing a bit more energy this week. Inside my mind, ideas were connecting to each other like fireworks. To get some peace from the thoughts, I decided to write out what was inside. The themes:How much time is left? How do I make the most of that time?How do I not repeat the mistakes of the past?How do I do more things that bring me joy? Why won’t I? How long will I keep going not demanding the best of myself?I’m not unlike you. I imagine you think the same questions from time to time. It’s okay. You’re pondering the right questions. Just make sure you get them out of your head.

A friend said, “your life has to take so many twists and turns that you never see what’s on the other side.”I found some truth in that.I think about my life; all the twists and turns. I think of myself hiking on a trail that’s in a valley. The trail weaves around large hills… maybe mountains. You never quite know what’s on the other side, but you know you must advance towards it. I am thankful for those trails.

Happy 4th birthday to the Brady Helps blog. I started this blog as a way to help musicians . Since that time, it’s evolved. Now, I look to help people like you. I don’t know how much I help though… my intention is not to give you a formula for life. There are so many people who do that. Instead, I earnestly try to share with you things that I think about: questions, ideas, frameworks, or ways to look at life. If you’ve been with me this entire time, thank you. You’ve received the equivalent of 4 books for each year that I’ve blogged. If you’re just joining, welcome.